Gwendolyn Owens of Relationships Start With You Professional One Sheet; visit her website for a complete list and contact information.
I am embarking on a journey of self-renewal. I have also wanted to be a successful entrepreneur. As a matter of fact, I come from a lineage of successful businessmen and businesswomen. Yet, I allowed fear of rejection to hinder me. I wanted to publish a book but I questioned myself, ” who would buy it?” I love to speak and share my life experiences but I wasn’t willing to step out of my comfort zone. My excuses: rejection , rejection, rejection!!! Then, I remembered the scripture: “God has not given us the spirit of fear but of power, love and a SOUND mind.”
My second excuse was I didn’t have enough money to market myself. Facebook and all the other social media outlets were safe. I figured someone would discover me and I would finally be “on the map!” I have used social media since 2012 and I ‘ve landed four speaking engagements. Now, keep in mind, I’ve had many speaking opportunities and did well but after my divorce my confidence was at an all time low. …another excuse.
Recently, I read Dani Johnson’s book, First Steps to Wealth. I reread it!!! It was as if the book was written specifically for me. Het mantra is excuses are lies that you’ve told yourself. The words in the book became my lifeline. I refuse to live another year in the 98 percentile. So, I have released myself from my pity party and I have been marketing myself, stepping out on faith; more importantly, I can conquer and succeed in the speaking and authoring arena!!!
Sometimes, it takes one powerful message to turn your life around. I am still on my journey and I will be a part of the 2% population.
As you get older, you see the world differently. You’ve gained wisdom from your experiences. The one thing that never changes is the core/ essence of who you are: your values, integrity and loving someone. I was insecure in my 20’s and 30’s yet I always wanted to be loved unconditionally. There weren’t any gray areas in my life; it was black and white. Now, I understand what love is and how to nurture and build a relationship. It takes those gray areas-forgiving and rebuilding instead of saying ” I am not going to put up with this!” It takes being vulnerable to another human being and communicating your true feelings without fear and reservation. It’s taking risks, commitment and UNCONDITIONAL love. That is the core of who I am; however, I had to love myself first. I tried to convince others how great a person I was/am but I had to believe in my soul that I was worthy. People come and go in your life but a piece of you goes with them through lessons learned. #iSTILLbelieveinlove
I admired and respected Dr. Maya Angelou, a woman that overcame insurmountable odds: raped as a child and silenced out of fear, a teenage single mother and a waitress, being a black woman and discriminated. Nevertheless, she loved the arts and pursued her career in film, dancing, singing, directing, writing, and teaching. She was also an activist; Dr. King and Maya were friends and she always stood for justice and equality.
One of her most famous books,written in 1970, I Know Why the Caged Birds Sings. opened up dialogue and awareness for women who were emotionally and sexually abused. She was (and still is) their voice.
“Dr. Angelou has served on two presidential committees, was awarded the Presidential Medal of Arts in 2000, the Lincoln Medal in 2008, and has received 3 Grammy Awards. President Clinton requested that she compose a poem to read at his inauguration in 1993. Dr. Angelou’s reading of her poem “On the Pulse of the Morning” was broadcast live around the world. Dr. Angelou has received over 50 honorary degrees and is Reynolds Professor of American Studies at Wake Forest University.”
Maya, a woman of color, raised the bar and demonstrated through her life’s work and experiences that every “sister-friend” can make it!!! Thank you for sharing your life with the world.
Dr. Angelou was on my bucket list. Now, I’ll have to meet you on the other side.
It’s strange how life takes you in many directions. I had to make a major decision in August 2013. I struggled with my choices. Am I being obedient to God? Am I in a panic and making choices based on fear and raw emotions? I allowed my first love to fall by the wayside and so I returned to teaching.
You see, I wanted to tell my life’s story to women who are STILL hurting, broken, rejected and have lost hope in ever being happy in life. I know I didn’t go through all of that heartache and hardship to keep my darkest hours to myself. I have a story to tell. I meet and talk to women who have put others first and have lost their identity. I see my old self and I want them to know that the pain is temporary. Yes, it feels as if the ache in your heart is permanently embedded but it is not. I spent many years angry, having pity parties, and distrusting any man that entered into my life. I had to protect my broken soul. Then, I literally woke up in the middle of the night and I said, ” I am no longer going to live in the past.” I started praying on a regular basis, working out, getting closer to my children and keeping a journal. I got my degrees and went from welfare to being gainfully employed. It was a long road but I regained my confidence and a great sense of accomplishment.
Today, I feel like going on. I have written two books and I am ready to share them with the world: MY STORY! I want women to know through my personal affirmations that life goes on, you must forgive and allow yourself to love again. My books will make you laugh, cry, think and decide that change must come in order to move on.
Today, I believe that if I can make a difference in ONE woman’s life then my journey was not in vain.
Gwendolyn Owens of Relationships Start With You
“You cannot have a healthy relationship, if you do not love and value yourself first!” gto
The only person that can make you feel complete is YOU! People will come and go in your life. So, don’t depend on another person to make you happy! Love yourself and understand that you can’t control another person’s right to make their own decisions. Sometimes you will stand alone but it doesn’t mean you are lonely. Remember, you don’t want someone to force you to stay with them when you are ready to walk away.
I went though a painful breakup 16 years ago. Nevertheless, I allowed God to do a complete makeover. I had to learn that sometimes people are with you for a reason and sometimes a season. Now, I know my self-worth;I learned many lessons and I am stronger from the experience!
It’s time to reflect on this year’s life experiences. The most important thing I learned is that God NEVER fails. He blessed me with employment and an increase in pay.
During my transition, I had to lean totally on Him. It wasn’t easy but I saw Him bless me in ways that my mind could not fathom. Several doors closed but He needed to seal those chapters in order for me to go forward.
I am still growing and my desire is for Relationships Start With You to become nationally known. I want to see women love themselves, become financially sound and have a solid relationship with God.
God bless each of you for being a part of a movement that is close to my heart! Without you, RSWY would not exist!
Blessings and favor,
Gwendolyn Owens of Relationships Start With You
Merry Christmas to all of our supportive fans and family!
My prayer is for every family that is represented to have a heart for those who are lost, hurt and have no hope. RSWY cares about those who are in need. We write positive messages and tell our personal struggles so that others may dig deep inside their hearts and have the strength to move forward in their lives. Without your support, there would not be RSWY. So, we gratitude and love, we take this moment to wish you and yours a happy holiday season!!!