Marriages fail because of pure selfishness and stubbornness. If a person is not willing to forgive you pray for them with the love of God and a pure heart. It’s easy to see your mate’s faults but it’s hard as hell to accept that you have deficiencies, too.
The courts are flooded with the business of executing divorces. The day you vowed to accept, love, respect, cherish, provide and forsake others was not a game. You made a covenant with God and your spouse. The question is, did you really want to follow God’s instruction concerning marriage? Marriage is not about going through the motions; it needs to be taken seriously.
Love is free and accepting but devotion is loyalty and commitment. Marriage takes two committed people to make a decision to work things out no matter what! Don’t allow your hatred to cause you to destroy your covenant . Take inventory of your life and your own truths.
So many people destroy the gift that God has given them. When your spouse is sick and tired of the petty nonsense, lack of caring and commitment, they have reached a breaking point. There is absolutely no turning back. When it’s over; it is over. It’s not always about being right, holding grudges, or having a “I don’t give a damn” spirit. What you don’t cherish someone is waiting in the wings to scoop up what you have discarded: your spouse. I promise you once you come to your senses, you will realize the pain and lack of love you inflicted on your gift from God. God WILL bring it to your remembrance.
What really matters to you?
My prayer today is that couples who have reached the brink of falling out of love will take heed and recognize that your marriage is worth saving.
****Disclaimer: I firmly believe in women having careers. I encourage it.
Marriage is a union between two people that biblically become one. It is a covenant between two people who confess their love in front of God, family, friends and each other.
Marriage will have its ups and downs but only those that are in love and are truly committed will survive. Love doesn’t allow you to intentionally hurt or say mean things to your spouse. That’s not of God. Anger only last for a moment because love prevails. You don’t focus on the negativity but see the beauty in your mate. Love carries you through the good AND bad times.
Your commitment to one another doesn’t allow strife to penetrate the marriage. It takes a strong Godly man, who is a leader, to keep his house in order because of His love for God, his wife, and children. The wife prays and uplifts her husband and has his back. She buffers situations; she runs her household in love. But, none of this can come to pass if the husband does not listen to counsel or seeks God for instruction. His love for God allows him to take pride in being the bread winner and he makes sure that his home is safe and secure.
“A man that finds a wife, finds a good thing AND finds favor in the Lord.”
In the 21st century, there are men who still find joy in taking care of their family and home.
Good morning RSWY Loyal Fans!
We have 16 days until the 10,000 Strong Rally. Thanks to each of you that are fully committed to seeing this through. It’s not about the number 10,000 but the support of those who believe that RSWY can change a woman or a couple’s life one person at a time. I am determined to share my story and reach the masses! There will be an upcoming video from me along with a question and answer session. Two lucky people will win a 15 minute session with me. You do not have to live in my area to win but you must participate in the event.
RSWY is on the move and my prayer is that hearts will be healed, careers will come to fruition and healthy relationships are formed.
Again many thanks for your loyalty,
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The decision has been made concerning the officer that killed an African American young man in Ferguson along with other fallen black men and women. First, I must say that I am not surprised!!! We live in a country where virtually no one (All RACES, CULTURES OR CREED) has regard for another person’s life. We must stop killing our own and band together. Fighting, drugs, revenge killings, gangs, stealing and hatred must end. Until we take care of OUR own, we cannot expect for others to do so. Now, a mother and father has buried their son. Death is final. Take back our neighborhoods by loving one another and coming together as a united front!!!! Until we, as a people come together, society will continue to treat us as animals.
Even if you feel alone, know that you are not. God is there and all you have to do is ask Him to comfort you and fill the void in your life. I believe what God says. Yes, I get weary and the tears fall down my face. That is my way of releasing those heavy weights. Then, I remember that my family loves me unconditionally and they are a phone call away!
He knows what we need and He will get rid of people and things that are not good for us. Keep loving!!! Keep giving!!! Keep serving God!!! It will pay off!!!
A person can tell you everyday how much they love you. If their actions don’t match their words then you know how they really feel about you. In a relationship, you will hit some “bumps in the road.” However, a God-centered relationship will flourish. It is never harsh, hurtful, or degrading. When you love someone, you don’t want their heart broken. You will do everything humanly possible to resolve the problem. The Word of God teaches us what genuine love is:
1 Corinthians 13:4-13 (my favorite scripture)
Love is kind and patient, never jealous, boastful, proud, or rude.
Love isn’t selfish or quick tempered. It doesn’t keep a record
of wrongs that others do. Love rejoices in the truth, but not in evil.
Love is always supportive, loyal, hopeful, and trusting.
LOVE NEVER FAILS!!!
Gwendolyn Owens of Relationships Start With You Professional One Sheet; visit her website for a complete list and contact information.
I am embarking on a journey of self-renewal. I have also wanted to be a successful entrepreneur. As a matter of fact, I come from a lineage of successful businessmen and businesswomen. Yet, I allowed fear of rejection to hinder me. I wanted to publish a book but I questioned myself, ” who would buy it?” I love to speak and share my life experiences but I wasn’t willing to step out of my comfort zone. My excuses: rejection , rejection, rejection!!! Then, I remembered the scripture: “God has not given us the spirit of fear but of power, love and a SOUND mind.”
My second excuse was I didn’t have enough money to market myself. Facebook and all the other social media outlets were safe. I figured someone would discover me and I would finally be “on the map!” I have used social media since 2012 and I ‘ve landed four speaking engagements. Now, keep in mind, I’ve had many speaking opportunities and did well but after my divorce my confidence was at an all time low. …another excuse.
Recently, I read Dani Johnson’s book, First Steps to Wealth. I reread it!!! It was as if the book was written specifically for me. Het mantra is excuses are lies that you’ve told yourself. The words in the book became my lifeline. I refuse to live another year in the 98 percentile. So, I have released myself from my pity party and I have been marketing myself, stepping out on faith; more importantly, I can conquer and succeed in the speaking and authoring arena!!!
Sometimes, it takes one powerful message to turn your life around. I am still on my journey and I will be a part of the 2% population.
As you get older, you see the world differently. You’ve gained wisdom from your experiences. The one thing that never changes is the core/ essence of who you are: your values, integrity and loving someone. I was insecure in my 20’s and 30’s yet I always wanted to be loved unconditionally. There weren’t any gray areas in my life; it was black and white. Now, I understand what love is and how to nurture and build a relationship. It takes those gray areas-forgiving and rebuilding instead of saying ” I am not going to put up with this!” It takes being vulnerable to another human being and communicating your true feelings without fear and reservation. It’s taking risks, commitment and UNCONDITIONAL love. That is the core of who I am; however, I had to love myself first. I tried to convince others how great a person I was/am but I had to believe in my soul that I was worthy. People come and go in your life but a piece of you goes with them through lessons learned. #iSTILLbelieveinlove
I admired and respected Dr. Maya Angelou, a woman that overcame insurmountable odds: raped as a child and silenced out of fear, a teenage single mother and a waitress, being a black woman and discriminated. Nevertheless, she loved the arts and pursued her career in film, dancing, singing, directing, writing, and teaching. She was also an activist; Dr. King and Maya were friends and she always stood for justice and equality.
One of her most famous books,written in 1970, I Know Why the Caged Birds Sings. opened up dialogue and awareness for women who were emotionally and sexually abused. She was (and still is) their voice.
“Dr. Angelou has served on two presidential committees, was awarded the Presidential Medal of Arts in 2000, the Lincoln Medal in 2008, and has received 3 Grammy Awards. President Clinton requested that she compose a poem to read at his inauguration in 1993. Dr. Angelou’s reading of her poem “On the Pulse of the Morning” was broadcast live around the world. Dr. Angelou has received over 50 honorary degrees and is Reynolds Professor of American Studies at Wake Forest University.”
Maya, a woman of color, raised the bar and demonstrated through her life’s work and experiences that every “sister-friend” can make it!!! Thank you for sharing your life with the world.
Dr. Angelou was on my bucket list. Now, I’ll have to meet you on the other side.
It’s strange how life takes you in many directions. I had to make a major decision in August 2013. I struggled with my choices. Am I being obedient to God? Am I in a panic and making choices based on fear and raw emotions? I allowed my first love to fall by the wayside and so I returned to teaching.
You see, I wanted to tell my life’s story to women who are STILL hurting, broken, rejected and have lost hope in ever being happy in life. I know I didn’t go through all of that heartache and hardship to keep my darkest hours to myself. I have a story to tell. I meet and talk to women who have put others first and have lost their identity. I see my old self and I want them to know that the pain is temporary. Yes, it feels as if the ache in your heart is permanently embedded but it is not. I spent many years angry, having pity parties, and distrusting any man that entered into my life. I had to protect my broken soul. Then, I literally woke up in the middle of the night and I said, ” I am no longer going to live in the past.” I started praying on a regular basis, working out, getting closer to my children and keeping a journal. I got my degrees and went from welfare to being gainfully employed. It was a long road but I regained my confidence and a great sense of accomplishment.
Today, I feel like going on. I have written two books and I am ready to share them with the world: MY STORY! I want women to know through my personal affirmations that life goes on, you must forgive and allow yourself to love again. My books will make you laugh, cry, think and decide that change must come in order to move on.
Today, I believe that if I can make a difference in ONE woman’s life then my journey was not in vain.
Gwendolyn Owens of Relationships Start With You
“You cannot have a healthy relationship, if you do not love and value yourself first!” gto