Gwendolyn Has Grown Up!!!

Happy Mother's Day to Brandi from Mama (Gigi)

Gwendolyn Has Grown Up!!!

In my twenties, I was naive.

In my thirties, I was insecure, broken and bitter.

In my forties, I learned to love myself, forgive and embrace life.

Now, I am fifty and life has just begun!

I am wise, comfortable in my own skin, appreciative, grateful and free!

I learned to live everyday as if it were my last!!!

I wish I knew then what I know now; however, this is my life’s course and I am going to “ride it until the wheels fall off!”

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A Year of Reflection:2013

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It’s time to reflect on this year’s life experiences. The most important thing I learned is that God NEVER fails. He blessed me with employment and an increase in pay.
During my transition, I had to lean totally on Him. It wasn’t easy but I saw Him bless me in ways that my mind could not fathom. Several doors closed but He needed to seal those chapters in order for me to go forward.
I am still growing and my desire is for Relationships Start With You to become nationally known. I want to see women love themselves, become financially sound and have a solid relationship with God.
God bless each of you for being a part of a movement that is close to my heart! Without you, RSWY would not exist!
Blessings and favor,
Gwendolyn Owens of Relationships Start With You

Merry Christmas From Relationships Start With You

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Merry Christmas to all of our supportive fans and family!

My prayer is for every family that is represented to have a heart for those who are lost, hurt and have no hope. RSWY cares about those who are in need. We write positive messages and tell our personal struggles so that others may dig deep inside their hearts and have the strength to move forward in their lives. Without your support, there would not be RSWY. So, we gratitude and love, we take this moment to wish you and yours a happy holiday season!!!

From the heart,

Gwendolyn, Vargus, Brandi, and Brian

Are We Really Thankful?

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In a world where instant gratification is the norm, are we really thankful? We must go back to the basics and appreciate the simple things in life! We are absorbed with our jobs, money and prestige but at the end of the day we must focus on what is really important: family, health, love and giving.
The economy has affected so many people. Lifestyles have changed and priorities have shifted. Does is take a crisis for us to see the beauty of life? Sometimes, the answer is yes. I am guilty of taking life for granted. When I became ill and near death, my outlook on life changed drastically. I forgave those who hurt me and I appreciate seeing the sun rise and set. Family is my number one priority! I don’t stress about things that I cannot control. I learned to trust God explicitly. My life is not my own and I  learned that I have very little control. One minute you are up and suddenly tragedy strikes. I do not worry about things.
Do not wait until a life-changing event to occur for you to see your blessings!!! Be thankful for life and the love of  your family and friends!
I am thankful!!!

Emani Moss: The Child Protective System Failed

 

Child Starved to Death; Later Burned and Thrown in a Trash Can Picture: Coutesy of Robin Moss

        Child Starved to Death            Later Burned and Thrown in a Trash Can
Picture: Coutesy of Robin Moss

I am troubled by society and the handling of abusive parents. A beautiful little girl, Emani Moss  (10) was starved and burned at the hands of her father and stepmother in Georgia. What happened to the nosey neighbor that reported everything? Where is our compassion for others; especially, defenseless children? We MUST take a stand and stop the violence against children at the hands of their own relatives and  even strangers.

Children are defenseless! If we do not help them, then shame on us!!!  Her stepmother and father were ordered to attend parenting class . Once they completed the course, Emani was returned to them. Her grandmother fought to keep her but was denied. This little girl will never attend her prom, get married, have children and a career. She was robbed of having a loving home with parents who nutured, loved and protected her. Her life meant nothing to the people who starved, burned and threw her in the trash can like a discarded object.

If you suspect abuse, report it! Call the police; contact the media. Do not stand by and watch a defenseless child have the life literally sucked out of them. There are many others who are abused and no one wants to get involved; thus, it is not reported until it is too late.  People care more about their animals than they do a helpless human being. The court system gives harsher punishment in an animal cruelty case because if the child does not have visible signs (bruising, scars, broken limbs) they find it difficult to prosecute the perpetrator . Laws need to be changed so that senseless killing of children can cease.

 

Rest in peace sweet  baby girl, Emani Moss.

God Where Is My Boaz by Stephan Labossiere

God Where Is My Boaz.

 

Stephan Labossiere is a man on a mission, and that mission is to make relationships happier and more fulfilling.

“No more wondering why GOD has yet to send you the man you desire. GOD Where’s My Boaz is a woman’s guide to understanding what is hindering her from receiving the man and love she deserves. It is a straight forward and easy to read book that will help women with moving in a more positive direction. This isn’t tips and tricks on how to get a man. This book will assist you in taking a deeper look within and help you prepare and position yourself for the love you deserve.”

Happy Being Me/Brown Skin

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Take care and love yourself! You cannot expect someone to treat you a certain way and you have absolutely no regard for your own well-being. Stop treating others better than you do yourself! You have to know your worth. Your family and friends can encourage and tell you how wonderful you are but it doesn’t mean anything if YOU don’t believe it!!! Go to counseling! Join a support group! Speak love and life over yourself. Stop believing negative things that other have said about you. They are miserable themselves. Love comes from within; it is not superficial. Words like”I am too fat; I am too dark; my hair is too kinky” are self-defeating. If you are tired of being fat, there is a solution-lose weight. Embrace your beautiful brown skin and natural hair! I wasn’t blessed with a round bottom but I had to learn to accept that there is more to me than my ass! Nobody can say it better than Angie Stone,”Happy Being Me” and India Arie, “Brown Skin.” Listen to these songs!!! I dare you!!!

Learn From Reality Shows: Relationship 101

Stevie J., Joseline and Meme View Source: blog.vh1.com

Stevie J., Joseline and Mimi
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Why do you live a dramatic life? What is cute about that? You are fighting, cursing and acting a damn fool over a man that is doing exactly what he wants!!! He is blatanly disrespecting you and for some strange reason, you are allowing it!!! Where is your self-worth, boundaries and standards? I am here to tell you that you can do better! It is a mentality. Learn from the show, Love and Hip Hop Atlanta (yes that is my gulity pleasure!). Joseline proposed to Stevie J KNOWING he is a womanizer!!!! Does that make sense to you? She ALLOWS him to continue to manipulate her by using his ex-girlfriend Mimi as a pawn. What is wrong with that picture? I see reality shows as life lessons. In other words, they model what is unacceptable in a thriving, loving and trustworthy relationship. Take notes!!!