He’s Just Not That Into to You: What Happened to the Marriage Chord?

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Marriages fail because of pure selfishness and stubbornness. If a person is not willing to forgive you pray for them with the love of God and a pure heart. It’s easy to see your mate’s faults but it’s hard as hell to accept that you have deficiencies, too.
The courts are flooded with the business of executing divorces. The day you vowed to accept, love, respect, cherish, provide and forsake others was not a game. You made a covenant with God and your spouse. The question is, did you really want to follow God’s instruction concerning marriage? Marriage is not about going through the motions; it needs to be taken seriously.
Love is free and accepting but devotion is loyalty and commitment. Marriage takes two committed people to make a decision to work things out no matter what! Don’t allow your hatred to cause you to destroy your covenant . Take inventory of your life and your own truths.
So many people destroy the gift that God has given them. When your spouse is sick and tired of the petty nonsense, lack of caring and commitment, they have reached a breaking point. There is absolutely no turning back. When it’s over; it is over. It’s not always about being right, holding grudges, or having a “I don’t give a damn” spirit. What you don’t cherish someone is waiting in the wings to scoop up what you have discarded: your spouse. I promise you once you come to your senses, you will realize the pain and lack of love you inflicted on your gift from God. God WILL bring it to your remembrance.
What really matters to you?
My prayer today is that couples who have reached the brink of falling out of love will take heed and recognize that your marriage is worth saving.
#forgive
#chooselove

Relationships Start With You 10, 000 Strong Rally August 31, 2015

imageGood morning RSWY Loyal Fans!
We have 16 days until the 10,000 Strong Rally. Thanks to each of you that are fully committed to seeing this through. It’s not about the number 10,000 but the support of those who believe that RSWY can change a woman or a couple’s life one person at a time. I am determined to share my story and reach the masses! There will be an upcoming video from me along with a question and answer session. Two lucky people will win a 15 minute session with me. You do not have to live in my area to win but you must participate in the event.
RSWY is on the move and my prayer is that hearts will be healed, careers will come to fruition and healthy relationships are formed.
Again many thanks for your loyalty,
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Singles Ladies Only!!!

BeYourselfSingle ladies-when you want to be in a relationship make sure you don’t settle. Take inventory of what you want and also the KNOW the deal breakers in a mate. Compatability is very important. Check his credit score, see if he is gainfully employed, has a relationship with God, nurturing, loving, do you want a man with/without children etc. More importantly, you need to be free of any past hurts or drama before you enter a relationship. Spend time working on you! You are your most valuable asset!!!
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Cheating= Exit to the Left!!!

Cheating is never an option. If your relationship is falling apart and you no longer want to be with that person have the decency to tell him/her. Money, sex, and dependency are selfish reasons to stay tied to someone. Always put yourself in that person’s shoes and see if you would like being used. In today’s society many people have lost their lives or have been seriously hurt because of cheating. Do the right thing and let that person go.

From the heart,
Gwendolyn
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I See Your True Colors-I Know Who You Really Are!

Ladies, before you are intimate with a man, get to know the person first. When sex is involved, at the beginning stages, it clouds your judgement. Women are emotional creatures which means we get attached easily while a man sees it as emotionless sex. You need to know if he is married, separated, in a relationship, employed, spiritually grounded, has good credit, goals and aspirations, been convicted( circumstances that led to the conviction),etc. A background check is not a bad thing in today’s society. Look out for yourself and don’t fall for every man that tells you that you look good.

From the heart,
Gwendolyn
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Women and Relationships Days 8-9 Female Friendships

black white friendshipEssence Magazine, February 2012 issue,had an article called The Relationship Rules. Guest bloggers reviewed the “playbook on dating, sex and when to tell a little white lie.” One of the rules that I found fascinating was “if he’s dated your friend, he’s off limits.”

The guest bloggers’ general consciences was if you have officially ended the relationship, then the guy is free game just as long as you discuss it with your friend. I really pondered over the notion and was surprised at the responses. If you have been sexually involved with your ex, why would it be okay for your friend to date him? Intimate details have been shared among  friends and it would appear to be an awkward situation. I just can’t go along with the ideology because my friendship could possibly be strained even though I have been given the “go ahead” to start dating the “old flame.”

RATIONALE-Where is the logic in this? I’ve heard the rationale that there is a shortage of men. Dating my friend’s ex is too close to home. I value my female friends and I would be so uncomfortable; it’s almost taboo. You have entrusted your friend with personal information and you use it against her to win him over. That is classless. There are enough men in the world that you don’t have to target your friend’s ex.

The number one reason NOT to date your friend’s former partner is because it will eventually break up the friendship and in the process you have lost a trusted friend. How would you feel if the situation was reversed and someone you used to love got involved with your close friend? You have just broken rule # 1: I can’t date him because she dated him. Secondly, none of your friends would want to be around you out of fear that you are checking out their boyfriend. Thirdly, don’t assume that you understand the intimate complexities of their relationship and why they broke up. Women share some things about their beau NOT everything . Lastly, what goes around comes around.

MANTRA: Dating a friend’s ex is never a good idea. Don’t you think for one minute that your friend giving you her blessing doesn’t mind, because she does. It is much better to find someone new than to risk a special friendship/bond over a relationship that may not last.  Curiosity killed the cat and your friendship’s nine lives will come to an end!!!

Remember: true friendships are priceless.

I am guilty of dating my best friend’s ex-boyfriend; however, I realize it was wrong on so many levels because__________________________. I know someone who dated a friend’s boyfriend and the repercussions were_____________________.