He’s Just Not That Into to You: What Happened to the Marriage Chord?

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Marriages fail because of pure selfishness and stubbornness. If a person is not willing to forgive you pray for them with the love of God and a pure heart. It’s easy to see your mate’s faults but it’s hard as hell to accept that you have deficiencies, too.
The courts are flooded with the business of executing divorces. The day you vowed to accept, love, respect, cherish, provide and forsake others was not a game. You made a covenant with God and your spouse. The question is, did you really want to follow God’s instruction concerning marriage? Marriage is not about going through the motions; it needs to be taken seriously.
Love is free and accepting but devotion is loyalty and commitment. Marriage takes two committed people to make a decision to work things out no matter what! Don’t allow your hatred to cause you to destroy your covenant . Take inventory of your life and your own truths.
So many people destroy the gift that God has given them. When your spouse is sick and tired of the petty nonsense, lack of caring and commitment, they have reached a breaking point. There is absolutely no turning back. When it’s over; it is over. It’s not always about being right, holding grudges, or having a “I don’t give a damn” spirit. What you don’t cherish someone is waiting in the wings to scoop up what you have discarded: your spouse. I promise you once you come to your senses, you will realize the pain and lack of love you inflicted on your gift from God. God WILL bring it to your remembrance.
What really matters to you?
My prayer today is that couples who have reached the brink of falling out of love will take heed and recognize that your marriage is worth saving.
#forgive
#chooselove

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What’s Love Got to do With It? The True Meaning of Marriage

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****Disclaimer: I firmly believe in women having careers. I encourage it.

Marriage is a union between two people that biblically become one. It is a covenant between two people who confess their love in front of God, family, friends and each other.
Marriage will have its ups and downs but only those that are in love and are truly committed will survive. Love doesn’t allow you to intentionally hurt or say mean things to your spouse. That’s not of God. Anger only last for a moment because love prevails. You don’t focus on the negativity but see the beauty in your mate. Love carries you through the good AND bad times.
Your commitment to one another doesn’t allow strife to penetrate the marriage. It takes a strong Godly man, who is a leader, to keep his house in order because of His love for God, his wife, and children. The wife prays and uplifts her husband and has his back. She buffers situations; she runs her household in love. But, none of this can come to pass if the husband does not listen to counsel or seeks God for instruction. His love for God allows him to take pride in being the bread winner and he makes sure that his home is safe and secure.
“A man that finds a wife, finds a good thing AND finds favor in the Lord.”
In the 21st century, there are men who still find joy in taking care of their family and home.

Love Never Fails!

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A person can tell you everyday how much they love you. If their actions don’t match their words then you know how they really feel about you. In a relationship, you will hit some “bumps in the road.” However, a God-centered relationship will flourish. It is never harsh, hurtful, or degrading. When you love someone, you don’t want their heart broken. You will do everything humanly possible to resolve the problem. The Word of God teaches us what genuine love is:
1 Corinthians 13:4-13 (my favorite scripture)
Love is kind and patient, never jealous, boastful, proud, or rude.
Love isn’t selfish or quick tempered. It doesn’t keep a record
of wrongs that others do. Love rejoices in the truth, but not in evil.
Love is always supportive, loyal, hopeful, and trusting.
LOVE NEVER FAILS!!!

Family Ties That Bind

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my grandbabiesBrian and Brandi

To those of you who have parents who are still living: do all you can because tomorrow is not promised. They have raised and nurtured you so make the time to check on them, run errands and take them places.
I am blessed beyond measure to still have my parents who are still married, alive and well. My mother is 75 and my father is 88. I am grateful for everything they have taught me, their unconditional love and guidance. Last week, I was able to go home. My dad and I had long talks about life and my mom and I had mother/daughter time. Also, I spent time with my children and grandchildren; they are my heart and soul. I cried when I left. Father, thank you for giving my parents longevity and keeping my children and grandchildren.

Father’s Day Blues

?????????????I know tomorrow a lot of children and adults are going to have mixed emotions about Father’s Day. If your dad is deceased, non-existent or you had a bad relationship, I ask that tomorrow you thank the non-biological men(surrogate fathers) for standing in the gap. To those of you who did not particpiate in your children’s lives, it’s never too late to ask for forgiveness and start building a relationship. If your children reject you, NO MORE EXCUSES, keep trying to reach out to them until the day you die. Understand they are hurt, disappointed, rejected and angry. However, forgiveness can take place when they are ready. Stop the vicious cycle, please!!!!
From the heart,
Gwendolyn

Should You Allow Your Boyfriend to Discipline Your Children? Hell No!!!

?????????????(Real Talk) Ladies, I just answered a question on Black Parents United ( please support): Is it appropriate to allow your boyfriend ( not the father) to discipline your child/children? (paraphrased) This is a pet peeve of mine. How could you allow a man ,that you are dating/boyfriend, to put his hands on your child? If he is not the father or your husband, you are out of line!!! We read online and hear on the news everyday about children being severely abused, tortured and even killed by a non- parent. MOTHERS protect your children. I realize there are different scenarios but you should set boundaries. If you are married to a man who is not the biological father, there needs to be a discussion and parameters set as to how/who disciplines the child/children. There are some excellent step-fathers out there who are loving and nurturing so kudos to you!!! But, this post is in reference to abusive boyfriends and sometimes step-fathers. Ladies, don’t EVER forget that your role is to protect your children!!! ( I am not trying to offend anyone; I am speaking out of love and being a voice for children.)
P.S. I would be in jail smoking cigarettes and I have asthma!!! You mess with my kids, I am going to have a state issued number across my chest!

Thanksgiving and Prayer

I would like to wish everyone a blessed Thanksgiving.   I solicit your prayers.  I am going to Pearland, Texas to visit my family. My mother has been ill off and on this year and now she is in CCU. Daddy is rarely ill; he’s 87 years young but he was taken to the ER twice this week.

Family means everything to me. I love them dearly and I ask God to place His healing hands on my mother and father. They are elderly and each day is precious. I moved away 3 years ago and it breaks my heart when my parents are not feeling well.

One thing I do know is God answers prayers. The Word of God says,”by His stripes  we are healed.” So,today I claim the victory for my parents !!!

Also, my children lost their paternal grandmother in June so the holidays have been very hard for the entire family. Father, give them peace, help them to remember the good times and the love she gave to each of them.

Again, thank you in advance for your prayers. Those of you who are traveling, I pray for safe passage in your going out and coming in.

 

Blessings,

RSWY