He’s Just Not That Into to You: What Happened to the Marriage Chord?

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Marriages fail because of pure selfishness and stubbornness. If a person is not willing to forgive you pray for them with the love of God and a pure heart. It’s easy to see your mate’s faults but it’s hard as hell to accept that you have deficiencies, too.
The courts are flooded with the business of executing divorces. The day you vowed to accept, love, respect, cherish, provide and forsake others was not a game. You made a covenant with God and your spouse. The question is, did you really want to follow God’s instruction concerning marriage? Marriage is not about going through the motions; it needs to be taken seriously.
Love is free and accepting but devotion is loyalty and commitment. Marriage takes two committed people to make a decision to work things out no matter what! Don’t allow your hatred to cause you to destroy your covenant . Take inventory of your life and your own truths.
So many people destroy the gift that God has given them. When your spouse is sick and tired of the petty nonsense, lack of caring and commitment, they have reached a breaking point. There is absolutely no turning back. When it’s over; it is over. It’s not always about being right, holding grudges, or having a “I don’t give a damn” spirit. What you don’t cherish someone is waiting in the wings to scoop up what you have discarded: your spouse. I promise you once you come to your senses, you will realize the pain and lack of love you inflicted on your gift from God. God WILL bring it to your remembrance.
What really matters to you?
My prayer today is that couples who have reached the brink of falling out of love will take heed and recognize that your marriage is worth saving.
#forgive
#chooselove

Gwendolyn Has Grown Up!!!

Happy Mother's Day to Brandi from Mama (Gigi)

Gwendolyn Has Grown Up!!!

In my twenties, I was naive.

In my thirties, I was insecure, broken and bitter.

In my forties, I learned to love myself, forgive and embrace life.

Now, I am fifty and life has just begun!

I am wise, comfortable in my own skin, appreciative, grateful and free!

I learned to live everyday as if it were my last!!!

I wish I knew then what I know now; however, this is my life’s course and I am going to “ride it until the wheels fall off!”

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The Biggest Lie Ever Told!!!!

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Ladies, I want you to understand what you are doing to yourself for the sake of being with a male. You have to know you are worth more than you are accepting. That old adage,” It’s better to have a piece of a man than no man at all” is the biggest lie that has EVER been told. You should want the best for yourself!!! You deserve to be treated with kindness and respect instead of someone cursing, beating you, taking your money and stripping you of your self-esteem. You MUST change the way you view yourself. “You are worth more than rubies!” No matter what you have been told in life, you are worth being loved. You are God’s child and don’t you forget that! Love doesn’t hurt!!! RSWY wants you to know that you are NOT alone!!!

Singles Ladies Only!!!

BeYourselfSingle ladies-when you want to be in a relationship make sure you don’t settle. Take inventory of what you want and also the KNOW the deal breakers in a mate. Compatability is very important. Check his credit score, see if he is gainfully employed, has a relationship with God, nurturing, loving, do you want a man with/without children etc. More importantly, you need to be free of any past hurts or drama before you enter a relationship. Spend time working on you! You are your most valuable asset!!!
www.facebook.com/RelationshipsStartWithYou.

Re-Evaluation Time

couple laughingLadies, it’s time to re-evaluate your relationship. If you are not getting what you need then something is wrong. Relationships are supposed to be mutually connected, fulfilling, exciting and grounded. Yes, you will have challenges but you work out issues by making compromises. Loving someone is an action. A person can tell you, “Oh, baby I love you!” and abuse you. However, a man respects and honors his lady. He is kind, nurturing, responsible, loving, and makes sure you are happy in the relationship. Why would you allow someone to take advantage of you and out of desperation you continue to cling to a selfish, abusive, and inconsiderate man? You teach people how to treat you by setting boundaries. You know the answer now act upon it. There are great SINGLE men out there.

http://www.facebook.com/RelationshipsStartWithYou.

Woman

I-am-my-own-womanStart loving yourself today! A real man loves a woman with intellect and confidence. Yes, being healthy is very important! Nevertheless, always love the skin you are in because beauty will fade, curves will expand, and your hair will gray and recede. 

Always have class and grace; those characteristics will carry you places you never imagined. I am proud to be called a woman!!!

As Women, Where Do We Draw The Line…

I chose to be happyWhen a man disrespects you by calling you a b***h, wh**e and trap, why do you still allow him in your life. You were given a birth name. Others terms of endearment are fine but NEVER allow a man or woman to disrespect you. It poisons your mindset and then you think less of yourself. Stop dealing with little boys, cowards, abusers and males who will not get a job and instead lay on your couch, eat your food, use your air, water and lights, are mean to your children and then take your money. There are men out there who were raised well. You can do better!!! KNOW YOUR WORTH!!!
DYSFUNCTION is not a option!!! Love yourself and your children enough to get out of that unhealthy relationship. There are all kinds of government and private resources, family and friends that can help you ONLY if you want better! Always have a plan in place so that you are safe! I am fighting and praying for your strength!
From the heart!
Gwendolyn

His Merices Are New EVERY Morning

RSWY CEO Gwen OwensFor some time I’ve had health challenges and they began to weigh heavily on my heart and my spirit was broken. However, God brought to the forefront of my mind the miracles He has performed in my life.

After educating children and adults for 14 years, I was told at the end of the 2011-2012 school year “you’re not a good fit.” I knew that statement had nothing to do with my job performance but it have EVERYTHING to do with being on sick leave for 4 months. I struggled with that but I remembered that if God touched my body and made me whole after being placed in a coma, on a respirator, having physical therapy to learn how to walk again then there is NOTHING too hard for Him. Every heartache, disappointment, rejection and illness gave me purpose-to tell the world of His goodness and mercy.

I am no different from you; I have my days. However, one thing I am certain of is God’s love for me and He promised that He would NEVER leave nor forsake me. Sometimes I shed tears and even in my weakness I question the direction he is taking me. But, at the end of the day, I understand my purpose.

Don’t give up on God because He knows and cares about your situation. It’s only temporary. As long as God exist there is hope.

From the heart…
Gwendolyn

I AM NO DIFFERENT FROM YOU-BROKENESS TO WHOLENESS

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Good morning everyone,
I started Relationships Start With You because I wanted to reach out to women who were broken and in despair. I was once that same woman. It breaks my heart when I see my sister despondent, not knowing which way to turn or what to do. So, I became transparent about my own personal demons and insecurites to let women know you can make it. No matter what stage/age you are in life there is always hope. I take my business seriously; my page is not a place to see how many fans I can get but to reach out to my sister in need. If I can help one woman then my work is not in vain. I know what it feels like and I am no different from you. I’ve dealt with infidelity, physical and verbal abuse and it made me feel that life was not worth living. My first step towards healing was making the decision to get out of my depression, receive the help I needed, leave my toxic relationship and start anew. It did not bother me anymore what people said or thought about me; my number one concern was my sanity and the example I was setting in front of my children. I wanted to live and be happy. As a result, I graduated from college in 1995 and 1998, set free in 2004, married my soulmate in 2009 and lost 61 lbs. in 2011!

You are not alone!

From the heart,
Gwendolyn