Father’s Day Blues

?????????????I know tomorrow a lot of children and adults are going to have mixed emotions about Father’s Day. If your dad is deceased, non-existent or you had a bad relationship, I ask that tomorrow you thank the non-biological men(surrogate fathers) for standing in the gap. To those of you who did not particpiate in your children’s lives, it’s never too late to ask for forgiveness and start building a relationship. If your children reject you, NO MORE EXCUSES, keep trying to reach out to them until the day you die. Understand they are hurt, disappointed, rejected and angry. However, forgiveness can take place when they are ready. Stop the vicious cycle, please!!!!
From the heart,

Career and Family vs. Baby Making Machine

woman pregnantYoung ladies (Real Talk)- You should have a career. There are too many opportunities for you to be successful. You can attend college online, go to trade school, get a job or start your own business. I had my son when I was 18 and my daughter at 21 but I promised myself that I would have a degree no matter what!!!! So, I obtained my first degree when I was 33 and my second one at 35. I never wanted to struggle or be poor. It is a mindset. I’ve been on public assistance and it was humiliating because they treat you like dirt and talk to you as if you are illiterate. Who wants to live like that? I told my caseworker that I am not here by choice but circumstances :my husband left me and I demand respect. After I graduated and got my first teaching position, I happily wrote them a letter stating that I no longer needed assistance. Take pride in who you are and better your situation. There is more to life than having babies!!! When you have them sweetheart, you have to take care of them. So, get off the sofa, go online and find a job, get your babies in subsidized day care, and feel good about yourself!!!

Spice of Life for Couples

Vargus and Gwen @ Valentine's Special 1Bring the spice back in your relationship! We can’t get complacant and think because we snagged the man that our work in done. NO, candle light dinners, long walks, looking into his eyes and “dessert” are things that make your relationship lasts. Do some of the things that he enjoys sometimes. Buy a sexy outfit, have a weekend get-a-way-nice hotel, go to the mountains, a sporting event, or “bless” your spare bedroom are some great ideas for making “Daddy” smile!!!!

You Ought to be Ashamed of Yourself!

REAL TALK: Ladies stop putting a man’s needs over your children. God gave you charge to love, nurture, teach and model how to live life. Stop exposing your children to worthless MALES for a few dollars and a warm bed. Your children will resent you for making them feel unloved and discarded. Stop having babies if you are not willing to raise them properly. It’s called birth control.


Dust Yourself Off

Are you looking to change some things in your life? Acknowledge it and stop sweeping it under the rug because it’s not going away. Have the courage to deal with the situation. Come up with a plan of action and take control of your life. We all have struggles; the difference is how we handle them. Take baby steps. One day at a time. Pray for guidance everyday. Things will get better!!!

I Don’t Need Your Approval

No one can make you feel important but you. Stop seeking approval from others; know who you are and do not allow anyone to shake your confidence. Look in the mirror everyday and tell yourself that you are worthy, beautiful, important, loved and a reflection of God. The more you say it then at some point you will believe it! Don’t forget to take care of your mind, body and soul!!!

From the heart,

Women and Relationships Days 18-19 Sexually Transmitted Diseases

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English: Logo of the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, an agency within the United States Department of Health and Human Services. White on blue background with white rays but no white “burst”. No detailed wording. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Are you protecting yourself against sexually transmitted diseases? Are you having discussions with your partner concerning his/her health status? How would you tell your future partner or spouse that you have been exposed to a potentially deadly disease? No one is worth putting your health at risk!

According to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention, “50% of sexually active people will have Genital Human Papillomavirus (HPV) at some time in their lives.” HPV is the most transmitted disease. So many women put the needs of their partner first over their personal safety. On the outside, women see a handsome, virile, successful man but never question his health status. Whether you wait to be intimate for a day, months or until you are married or already married, you are still at risk.

Testing is key! Women feel uncomfortable examining their mate’s genitalia and vice versa. While most men and women do not have symptoms or visible signs, there are things you can look for: one or more growths and warts that may be single, grouped, raised, flat, or cauliflower-shaped. Most women find out they are infected through routine wellness check-ups which is indicated by abnormal cells. Further examinations and a biopsy are done to check for cancer, look at the cervix or remove the warts. It is best that both partners are tested at the same time. Everyone should know their health status before taking a relationship any further. Use protection when engaging in relations. Also, keep in mind there are other transmittable disease that have deadly and/or long lasting effects. If you are infected, do the right thing and tell your mate. It is criminal if you expose someone to a STD.

I will not be afraid to___________when it comes to protecting my health.