Wisdom is the Bridge Between the Head and the Heart

As you get older, you see the world differently. You’ve gained wisdom from your experiences. The one thing that never changes is the core/ essence of who you are: your values, integrity and loving someone. I was insecure in my 20’s and 30’s yet I always wanted to be loved unconditionally. There weren’t any gray areas in my life; it was black and white. Now, I understand what love is and how to nurture and build a relationship. It takes those gray areas-forgiving and rebuilding instead of saying ” I am not going to put up with this!” It takes being vulnerable to another human being and communicating your true feelings without fear and reservation. It’s taking risks, commitment and UNCONDITIONAL love. That is the core of who I am; however, I had to love myself first. I tried to convince others how great a person I was/am but I had to believe in my soul that I was worthy. People come and go in your life but a piece of you goes with them through lessons learned.
‪#‎iSTILLbelieveinlove‬

 

 

Phenomenal Woman: Dr. Maya Angelou

Dr. Maya Angelou

I admired and respected Dr. Maya Angelou, a woman that overcame insurmountable odds: raped as a child and silenced out of fear, a teenage  single mother and a waitress, being a black woman and  discriminated. Nevertheless, she loved the arts and pursued her career in film, dancing, singing,  directing, writing,  and teaching. She was also an activist; Dr. King and Maya were friends and she always stood for justice and equality.

One of her most famous books,written in 1970,  I Know Why the Caged Birds Sings. opened up dialogue and awareness for women who were emotionally and sexually abused. She was (and still is) their voice.

Excerpt from her biography:http://mayaangelou.com/bio/

“Dr. Angelou has served on two presidential committees, was awarded the Presidential Medal of Arts in 2000, the Lincoln Medal in 2008, and has received 3 Grammy Awards. President Clinton requested that she compose a poem to read at his inauguration in 1993. Dr. Angelou’s reading of her poem “On the Pulse of the Morning” was broadcast live around the world. Dr. Angelou has received over 50 honorary degrees and is Reynolds Professor of American Studies at Wake Forest University.”

Maya, a woman of color, raised the bar and demonstrated through her life’s work and experiences that every “sister-friend” can make it!!! Thank you for sharing your life with the world.

Dr. Angelou was on my bucket list. Now, I’ll have to meet you on the other side.

R.I.P. Phenomenal Woman!!!

I Feel Like Going On…

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It’s strange how life takes you in many directions. I had to make a major decision in August 2013. I struggled with my choices. Am I being obedient to God? Am I in a panic and making choices based on  fear and raw emotions? I allowed my first love to fall by the wayside and so I returned to teaching.

You see, I wanted to tell my life’s story to women who are STILL  hurting,  broken, rejected and  have lost hope in ever being happy in life. I know I didn’t go through all of that heartache and hardship to keep my darkest hours to myself. I have a story to tell. I meet and talk to women who have put others first and have lost their identity. I see my old self and I want them to know that the pain is temporary. Yes, it feels as if the ache in your heart is permanently embedded but it is not. I spent many years angry, having pity parties, and distrusting any man that entered into my life. I had to protect my broken soul. Then, I literally woke up in the middle of the night and I said, ” I am no longer going to live in the past.” I started praying on a regular basis, working out, getting closer to my children and keeping a journal. I got my degrees and went from welfare to being gainfully employed. It was a long road but I regained my confidence  and  a great sense of accomplishment.

Today, I feel like going on. I have written two books and I am ready to share them with the world: MY STORY! I want women to know through my personal affirmations that life goes on, you must forgive and allow yourself to love again. My books will make you laugh, cry, think and decide that change must come in order to move on.

Today, I believe that if I can make a difference in ONE woman’s life then my journey was not in vain.

Gwendolyn Owens of Relationships Start With You

“You cannot have a healthy relationship, if you do not love and value yourself first!” gto

Gwendolyn Has Grown Up!!!

Happy Mother's Day to Brandi from Mama (Gigi)

Gwendolyn Has Grown Up!!!

In my twenties, I was naive.

In my thirties, I was insecure, broken and bitter.

In my forties, I learned to love myself, forgive and embrace life.

Now, I am fifty and life has just begun!

I am wise, comfortable in my own skin, appreciative, grateful and free!

I learned to live everyday as if it were my last!!!

I wish I knew then what I know now; however, this is my life’s course and I am going to “ride it until the wheels fall off!”

gto

Emani Moss: The Child Protective System Failed

 

Child Starved to Death; Later Burned and Thrown in a Trash Can Picture: Coutesy of Robin Moss

        Child Starved to Death            Later Burned and Thrown in a Trash Can
Picture: Coutesy of Robin Moss

I am troubled by society and the handling of abusive parents. A beautiful little girl, Emani Moss  (10) was starved and burned at the hands of her father and stepmother in Georgia. What happened to the nosey neighbor that reported everything? Where is our compassion for others; especially, defenseless children? We MUST take a stand and stop the violence against children at the hands of their own relatives and  even strangers.

Children are defenseless! If we do not help them, then shame on us!!!  Her stepmother and father were ordered to attend parenting class . Once they completed the course, Emani was returned to them. Her grandmother fought to keep her but was denied. This little girl will never attend her prom, get married, have children and a career. She was robbed of having a loving home with parents who nutured, loved and protected her. Her life meant nothing to the people who starved, burned and threw her in the trash can like a discarded object.

If you suspect abuse, report it! Call the police; contact the media. Do not stand by and watch a defenseless child have the life literally sucked out of them. There are many others who are abused and no one wants to get involved; thus, it is not reported until it is too late.  People care more about their animals than they do a helpless human being. The court system gives harsher punishment in an animal cruelty case because if the child does not have visible signs (bruising, scars, broken limbs) they find it difficult to prosecute the perpetrator . Laws need to be changed so that senseless killing of children can cease.

 

Rest in peace sweet  baby girl, Emani Moss.

I AM A WOMAN…

 

 

 

Happy Mother's Day to Brandi from Mama (Gigi)My life’s journey has been described as a series of peaks and valleys. I’ve learned and experienced acceptance, forgiveness, peace, pain, endurance, healing, God’s love, patience, compassion, brokeness, survival, depression, and the lists goes on… I feel for others that have walked in my shoes. I understand doubt, rejection and confusion. I’ve overcome sadness, loneliness, self-hatred and self-pity.

Now, I am a woman with a heart to love, to give my life serving others and appreciating the simple things in life. I wake up every morning with thanksgiving in my heart because I am growing in grace and wisdom everyday. I challenge myself to be a better human being and to live a life that is pleasing to God. I cherish my beautiful, intelligent, loving and compassionate children:Brian and Brandi. I breathe because of them. I learn from them and I see a reflection of myself in their eyes. They are my greatest gift.

I don’t know what tomorrow will bring but I want to leave a legacy of hope and determination to all women. Love and embrace yourself. Be kind to yourself. See beauty in all things and bring another sister closer to God. Treat one another with kindness and be a beacon of light when a sister is in darkness. Yes, I believe we are tied together…helping one sister at a time. Embrace today because tomorrow is not promised.
From the heart,
Gwendolyn