I AM A WOMAN…

 

 

 

Happy Mother's Day to Brandi from Mama (Gigi)My life’s journey has been described as a series of peaks and valleys. I’ve learned and experienced acceptance, forgiveness, peace, pain, endurance, healing, God’s love, patience, compassion, brokeness, survival, depression, and the lists goes on… I feel for others that have walked in my shoes. I understand doubt, rejection and confusion. I’ve overcome sadness, loneliness, self-hatred and self-pity.

Now, I am a woman with a heart to love, to give my life serving others and appreciating the simple things in life. I wake up every morning with thanksgiving in my heart because I am growing in grace and wisdom everyday. I challenge myself to be a better human being and to live a life that is pleasing to God. I cherish my beautiful, intelligent, loving and compassionate children:Brian and Brandi. I breathe because of them. I learn from them and I see a reflection of myself in their eyes. They are my greatest gift.

I don’t know what tomorrow will bring but I want to leave a legacy of hope and determination to all women. Love and embrace yourself. Be kind to yourself. See beauty in all things and bring another sister closer to God. Treat one another with kindness and be a beacon of light when a sister is in darkness. Yes, I believe we are tied together…helping one sister at a time. Embrace today because tomorrow is not promised.
From the heart,
Gwendolyn

The Biggest Lie Ever Told!!!!

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self-esteem (Photo credit: Key Foster)

Ladies, I want you to understand what you are doing to yourself for the sake of being with a male. You have to know you are worth more than you are accepting. That old adage,” It’s better to have a piece of a man than no man at all” is the biggest lie that has EVER been told. You should want the best for yourself!!! You deserve to be treated with kindness and respect instead of someone cursing, beating you, taking your money and stripping you of your self-esteem. You MUST change the way you view yourself. “You are worth more than rubies!” No matter what you have been told in life, you are worth being loved. You are God’s child and don’t you forget that! Love doesn’t hurt!!! RSWY wants you to know that you are NOT alone!!!

Shop Is Closed!!! It Will NOT Be Re-Opened For Business!!!

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Why waste your energy on someone who only sees you when it is convenient for him? He’ll show up for sex, a little cash and broken promises. Stop making excuses for this loser. He doesn’t have your best intentions at heart; he’s using you and every woman that crosses his path! Next time he “stops by,” look that idiot in the face and tell him “shop is closed! It will not be reopened for business!”

 

Should You Allow Your Boyfriend to Discipline Your Children? Hell No!!!

?????????????(Real Talk) Ladies, I just answered a question on Black Parents United ( please support): Is it appropriate to allow your boyfriend ( not the father) to discipline your child/children? (paraphrased) This is a pet peeve of mine. How could you allow a man ,that you are dating/boyfriend, to put his hands on your child? If he is not the father or your husband, you are out of line!!! We read online and hear on the news everyday about children being severely abused, tortured and even killed by a non- parent. MOTHERS protect your children. I realize there are different scenarios but you should set boundaries. If you are married to a man who is not the biological father, there needs to be a discussion and parameters set as to how/who disciplines the child/children. There are some excellent step-fathers out there who are loving and nurturing so kudos to you!!! But, this post is in reference to abusive boyfriends and sometimes step-fathers. Ladies, don’t EVER forget that your role is to protect your children!!! ( I am not trying to offend anyone; I am speaking out of love and being a voice for children.)
P.S. I would be in jail smoking cigarettes and I have asthma!!! You mess with my kids, I am going to have a state issued number across my chest!

Respect Yourself!!!

Single Ladies (Put a Ring on It)

Single Ladies (Put a Ring on It) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Ladies, understand that your body is precious and it is not made to be used and abused. If you don’t respect yourself, then a MALE will use you until he’s had enough and leave you broken and feeling worthless. It’s never too late to change your way of thinking. Forgive yourself and start anew. ALWAYS know your worth and in the meantime work on yourself. Wait for the right MAN to enter your life and he’ll treat you like a queen, accept your faults, encourage and uplift you and make you his wife for life. (Put a ring on it!!!)

Career and Family vs. Baby Making Machine

woman pregnantYoung ladies (Real Talk)- You should have a career. There are too many opportunities for you to be successful. You can attend college online, go to trade school, get a job or start your own business. I had my son when I was 18 and my daughter at 21 but I promised myself that I would have a degree no matter what!!!! So, I obtained my first degree when I was 33 and my second one at 35. I never wanted to struggle or be poor. It is a mindset. I’ve been on public assistance and it was humiliating because they treat you like dirt and talk to you as if you are illiterate. Who wants to live like that? I told my caseworker that I am not here by choice but circumstances :my husband left me and I demand respect. After I graduated and got my first teaching position, I happily wrote them a letter stating that I no longer needed assistance. Take pride in who you are and better your situation. There is more to life than having babies!!! When you have them sweetheart, you have to take care of them. So, get off the sofa, go online and find a job, get your babies in subsidized day care, and feel good about yourself!!!

Recognize Game Ladies!!!

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(Real Talk) Ladies, do you really know your worth? Do you recognize the red flags? If you are not getting what you need, then it’s time to say BYE BYE!!! Don’t try to force a relationship to work! If he is a liar, only sees you at night (at your place), you can only call at certain times, he hasn’t introduced you to his close friends and family and he’s asking for money then the answer is in your face. You are “worth more than jewels” so why would you settle for that “creepin” mentality! Learn to cut your loses. A manipulative man can spot a vulnerable woman a mile away. Get your act together and kick that loser to the curb!!!!

How to Get Out of a Bad Relationship 05/22 by The Black Womans Guide To Love | Blog Talk Radio

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How to Get Out of a Bad Relationship 05/22 by The Black Womans Guide To Love | Blog Talk Radio.

Have you every wanted to get out of a relationship, but did not know how?  Then this is the episode for you. 

Gwendolyn Owens of Relationships Start With You, is a speaker-women’s advocate/relationship expert, educator, writer and blogger. Her message breathes life into women who are broken, have low self-esteem and are in toxic relationships. Gwendolyn is passionate about helping women overcome adversity because she was once a very troubled and insecure person with no hope. She triumphed and overcame a devastating divorce, low self-esteem, a life-threatening illness and job loss.

Join the regular Black Woman Guide to Love team of Shawn Hill, author of The Single Black Woman’s Guide to Dating, Patrick Bishop, author of the Way of the Scarecrow, and Keitha Stoute of the Cruise Controlled Blog.