I Feel Like Going On…

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It’s strange how life takes you in many directions. I had to make a major decision in August 2013. I struggled with my choices. Am I being obedient to God? Am I in a panic and making choices based on  fear and raw emotions? I allowed my first love to fall by the wayside and so I returned to teaching.

You see, I wanted to tell my life’s story to women who are STILL  hurting,  broken, rejected and  have lost hope in ever being happy in life. I know I didn’t go through all of that heartache and hardship to keep my darkest hours to myself. I have a story to tell. I meet and talk to women who have put others first and have lost their identity. I see my old self and I want them to know that the pain is temporary. Yes, it feels as if the ache in your heart is permanently embedded but it is not. I spent many years angry, having pity parties, and distrusting any man that entered into my life. I had to protect my broken soul. Then, I literally woke up in the middle of the night and I said, ” I am no longer going to live in the past.” I started praying on a regular basis, working out, getting closer to my children and keeping a journal. I got my degrees and went from welfare to being gainfully employed. It was a long road but I regained my confidence  and  a great sense of accomplishment.

Today, I feel like going on. I have written two books and I am ready to share them with the world: MY STORY! I want women to know through my personal affirmations that life goes on, you must forgive and allow yourself to love again. My books will make you laugh, cry, think and decide that change must come in order to move on.

Today, I believe that if I can make a difference in ONE woman’s life then my journey was not in vain.

Gwendolyn Owens of Relationships Start With You

“You cannot have a healthy relationship, if you do not love and value yourself first!” gto

Seasons Come and Go…You Are the Only Constant

 

The only person that can make you feel complete is YOU! People will come and go in your life. So, don’t depend on another person to make you happy! Love yourself and understand that you can’t control another person’s right to make their own decisions. Sometimes you will stand alone but it doesn’t mean you are lonely. Remember, you don’t want someone to force you to stay with them when you are ready to walk away.

I went though a painful breakup 16 years ago. Nevertheless, I allowed God to do a complete makeover. I had to learn that sometimes people are with you for a reason and sometimes a season. Now, I know my self-worth;I learned many lessons and I am stronger from the experience!

Gwendolyn Has Grown Up!!!

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Gwendolyn Has Grown Up!!!

In my twenties, I was naive.

In my thirties, I was insecure, broken and bitter.

In my forties, I learned to love myself, forgive and embrace life.

Now, I am fifty and life has just begun!

I am wise, comfortable in my own skin, appreciative, grateful and free!

I learned to live everyday as if it were my last!!!

I wish I knew then what I know now; however, this is my life’s course and I am going to “ride it until the wheels fall off!”

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A Year of Reflection:2013

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It’s time to reflect on this year’s life experiences. The most important thing I learned is that God NEVER fails. He blessed me with employment and an increase in pay.
During my transition, I had to lean totally on Him. It wasn’t easy but I saw Him bless me in ways that my mind could not fathom. Several doors closed but He needed to seal those chapters in order for me to go forward.
I am still growing and my desire is for Relationships Start With You to become nationally known. I want to see women love themselves, become financially sound and have a solid relationship with God.
God bless each of you for being a part of a movement that is close to my heart! Without you, RSWY would not exist!
Blessings and favor,
Gwendolyn Owens of Relationships Start With You

Happy Being Me/Brown Skin

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Take care and love yourself! You cannot expect someone to treat you a certain way and you have absolutely no regard for your own well-being. Stop treating others better than you do yourself! You have to know your worth. Your family and friends can encourage and tell you how wonderful you are but it doesn’t mean anything if YOU don’t believe it!!! Go to counseling! Join a support group! Speak love and life over yourself. Stop believing negative things that other have said about you. They are miserable themselves. Love comes from within; it is not superficial. Words like”I am too fat; I am too dark; my hair is too kinky” are self-defeating. If you are tired of being fat, there is a solution-lose weight. Embrace your beautiful brown skin and natural hair! I wasn’t blessed with a round bottom but I had to learn to accept that there is more to me than my ass! Nobody can say it better than Angie Stone,”Happy Being Me” and India Arie, “Brown Skin.” Listen to these songs!!! I dare you!!!

Learn From Reality Shows: Relationship 101

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Stevie J., Joseline and Mimi
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Why do you live a dramatic life? What is cute about that? You are fighting, cursing and acting a damn fool over a man that is doing exactly what he wants!!! He is blatanly disrespecting you and for some strange reason, you are allowing it!!! Where is your self-worth, boundaries and standards? I am here to tell you that you can do better! It is a mentality. Learn from the show, Love and Hip Hop Atlanta (yes that is my gulity pleasure!). Joseline proposed to Stevie J KNOWING he is a womanizer!!!! Does that make sense to you? She ALLOWS him to continue to manipulate her by using his ex-girlfriend Mimi as a pawn. What is wrong with that picture? I see reality shows as life lessons. In other words, they model what is unacceptable in a thriving, loving and trustworthy relationship. Take notes!!!

Juneteenth-What Strides Have You Made As People of Color?

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As we celebrate Juneteenth today (148 years ago), what strides have you made to improve yourself, community, family and build a lasting heritage to leave to your children? We are people of color with a rich history. Are we living up to the standards that our martyrs have set, preached and lost their lives to allow us to have inalienable rights like everyone else. This question is for me, too! We need to be more community oriented, stress to our children the importance of education and respect, take our streets back, stop killing one another, demand drugs be removed out of our neighborhoods and away from our sons and daughters. We have a responsibility and we all know there is strength in numbers. Mentor a child. Help your sister and brother who are in need. It is our duty as a people to do so!!!