Seasons Come and Go…You Are the Only Constant

 

The only person that can make you feel complete is YOU! People will come and go in your life. So, don’t depend on another person to make you happy! Love yourself and understand that you can’t control another person’s right to make their own decisions. Sometimes you will stand alone but it doesn’t mean you are lonely. Remember, you don’t want someone to force you to stay with them when you are ready to walk away.

I went though a painful breakup 16 years ago. Nevertheless, I allowed God to do a complete makeover. I had to learn that sometimes people are with you for a reason and sometimes a season. Now, I know my self-worth;I learned many lessons and I am stronger from the experience!

Shop Is Closed!!! It Will NOT Be Re-Opened For Business!!!

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Why waste your energy on someone who only sees you when it is convenient for him? He’ll show up for sex, a little cash and broken promises. Stop making excuses for this loser. He doesn’t have your best intentions at heart; he’s using you and every woman that crosses his path! Next time he “stops by,” look that idiot in the face and tell him “shop is closed! It will not be reopened for business!”

 

Lessons in Life: Forgiveness

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I am a firm believer in forgiveness. During your lifetime, you will experience hurt, disappointment and heartache. The key to dealing with these emotions is putting the negative events in your life in perspective. Your experiences are teachable moments. You learn who you are, what you want in life and you gain wisdom. Everything that you’ve had to face did not happen by chance. Either it was a lesson for you or the other person. God uses us as His vessels. So, forgive the person that hurt you. Come to grips with your past and allow yourself to move on. Say to yourself, “today I choose to forgive. The person that hurt me no longer has power over me. I am set free because I choose to forgive.” Forgiveness=Freedom

I Know My Worth!!! What About You?

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  • YOU are your most important asset! That means you don’t need any liabilities entering your life. Don’t allow anyone to drag you down!!! Remember that!!!
  • Holding on to a dead-in relationship is suicide. When it’s over, cut your losses and move on. Don’t continue to subject yourself to pain, heartache and misery. All you have to do is pack your things, load up the U-Haul, grab your purse and move to your new place where there is peace and take hold of your life. Don’t look back!!! Lot’s wife (Bible) looked back, and she became a pillar of salt. Your future is ahead of you not behind you!
  • Have you ever known people who are always negative? They are never happy about anything. They complain, complain, complain!!! You want to run when you see them coming! Think before you speak because it could work against you. The tongue can speak life or death. In other words, what we put out is what we get back. Never doubt the power you have inside of you. Speak positive things over yourself. Change your way of thinking and watch your life change for the better!

How to Get Out of a Bad Relationship 05/22 by The Black Womans Guide To Love | Blog Talk Radio

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How to Get Out of a Bad Relationship 05/22 by The Black Womans Guide To Love | Blog Talk Radio.

Have you every wanted to get out of a relationship, but did not know how?  Then this is the episode for you. 

Gwendolyn Owens of Relationships Start With You, is a speaker-women’s advocate/relationship expert, educator, writer and blogger. Her message breathes life into women who are broken, have low self-esteem and are in toxic relationships. Gwendolyn is passionate about helping women overcome adversity because she was once a very troubled and insecure person with no hope. She triumphed and overcame a devastating divorce, low self-esteem, a life-threatening illness and job loss.

Join the regular Black Woman Guide to Love team of Shawn Hill, author of The Single Black Woman’s Guide to Dating, Patrick Bishop, author of the Way of the Scarecrow, and Keitha Stoute of the Cruise Controlled Blog.

As Women, Where Do We Draw The Line…

I chose to be happyWhen a man disrespects you by calling you a b***h, wh**e and trap, why do you still allow him in your life. You were given a birth name. Others terms of endearment are fine but NEVER allow a man or woman to disrespect you. It poisons your mindset and then you think less of yourself. Stop dealing with little boys, cowards, abusers and males who will not get a job and instead lay on your couch, eat your food, use your air, water and lights, are mean to your children and then take your money. There are men out there who were raised well. You can do better!!! KNOW YOUR WORTH!!!
DYSFUNCTION is not a option!!! Love yourself and your children enough to get out of that unhealthy relationship. There are all kinds of government and private resources, family and friends that can help you ONLY if you want better! Always have a plan in place so that you are safe! I am fighting and praying for your strength!
From the heart!
Gwendolyn

I AM NO DIFFERENT FROM YOU-BROKENESS TO WHOLENESS

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Good morning everyone,
I started Relationships Start With You because I wanted to reach out to women who were broken and in despair. I was once that same woman. It breaks my heart when I see my sister despondent, not knowing which way to turn or what to do. So, I became transparent about my own personal demons and insecurites to let women know you can make it. No matter what stage/age you are in life there is always hope. I take my business seriously; my page is not a place to see how many fans I can get but to reach out to my sister in need. If I can help one woman then my work is not in vain. I know what it feels like and I am no different from you. I’ve dealt with infidelity, physical and verbal abuse and it made me feel that life was not worth living. My first step towards healing was making the decision to get out of my depression, receive the help I needed, leave my toxic relationship and start anew. It did not bother me anymore what people said or thought about me; my number one concern was my sanity and the example I was setting in front of my children. I wanted to live and be happy. As a result, I graduated from college in 1995 and 1998, set free in 2004, married my soulmate in 2009 and lost 61 lbs. in 2011!

You are not alone!

From the heart,
Gwendolyn

My Sister In Need-Morning Prayer

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Good morning everyone,
I want to lift up every woman who feels lost, unloved, rejected, broken, at wits end and in toxic relationships.

Gracious,All-Knowing God,
I come this morning standing in the gap for my sisters who are in need. You know every hair on their heads because you are the Creator. I ask that prayers are answered and heavy weights are lifted so that the sun will shine again in their lives; dry their tears because you said “Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning.” I pray for peace in the midst of every circumstance they are facing; you made the wind and the waves behave so there is absolutely nothing too hard for you! Let the love that we have for you, radiate and uplift a sister that is in dire need of peace, love, finances, freedom, forgiveness and restoration. We thank you for covering us with your protective shield. Dismiss us from this prayer but NEVER from your Holy Presence.
Amen

From the Heart,
Gwendolyn-RSWY

They Are Not Worth Your Time and Energy-Forgive!

The greatest gift you can give yourself is forgiveness. It is freeing and you can live your life in peace and not have bitterness, anger and hatred in your soul. Forgive someone today; do it for yourself!!! Forgiving others

P.S. Forgiveness does not let them off the hook; it frees you from thinking about them! Now, move on with your life!

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