Women and Relationships Day 3: Loving Yourself

the best makeup is to smileThere are so many women who don’t love themselves because of society’s perception of BEAUTY or because someone has told them they are unattractive. What is beauty? According to Merriam-Webster, beauty is the quality or aggregate of qualities in a person or thing that gives pleasure to the senses or pleasurably exalts the mind or spirit. So, beauty is not only physical appearance but the spirit that exudes inside of you.

Somewhere in youth, a girl has internalized every negative word that a cruel person has spoken to them and it has carried over into womanhood. So they internalize those words and are so uncomfortable with themselves that they resort to cosmetic surgery not realizing that the inner woman is still the same. The work begins on the inside. So, no amount of surgery will change the way you feel about yourself until you embrace the inner you.

“My primary relationship is with myself – all others are mirrors of it. As I learn to love myself, I automatically receive the love and appreciation that I desire from others. If I am committed to myself and to living my truth, I will attract others with equal commitment.” Shakti Gawain, Reflections in the Light

Every relationship you will ever have with someone else will mirror one or more negative aspects of the relationship you have with yourself. That’s why it is so important to embrace, love and accept your uniqueness. According to the Law of Attraction, we draw to us the manifestations of what we feel. So, in order for you to draw in loving people, you need to know how to love yourself first.

The formula for loving yourself is not to accept or say negative things about who you are as a person. Always affirm and reaffirm that you are valuable and have worth. Speak love over yourself until it becomes a part of you.

“Love yourself—accept yourself—forgive yourself—and be good to yourself, because without you the rest of us are without a source of many wonderful things.” ~Leo F. Buscaglia

RSWY Mantra: I must know my worth, love myself unconditionally and not allow anyone or any situation to make me doubt my worthiness. I radiate because I am comfortable in my own skin. No one has the power to control my feelings, thoughts or beliefs. I know who I am.

Start loving yourself today!

What can you love about yourself today that you may have struggled with before?

Relationships Start With You 2013 Series-Women and Relationships

RSWY is so excited about the upcoming series: Women and Relationships. Some of the candid topics will be STD’s, Loving Yourself,Surviving a Relationship Breakup, Being a Mother, Women and Careers and many more. 2013 is the year for empowering women!!! The series will be interactive and I would love to share some of your stories (inbox /message me and of course they will be posted anonymously). Ladies get your journals!!!
Happy Holidays!!!

What is a True Friendship?

Friends for Life

Someone ask me the other day what is my definition of a friend.

A friend is someone:

  • who loves you unconditionally
  • you can count on through thick and thin
  • who supports you in your endeavors/dreams
  • who gives great advise
  •  who believes in you
  • very honest
  • you feel comfortable being transparent
  • who is like family
  • remembers your birthday
  • who you don’t have to speak everyday but you know they are there for you
  • wants the best for you
  • encourages you to be your best
  • sticks closer than a brother/sister