Phenomenal Woman: Dr. Maya Angelou

Dr. Maya Angelou

I admired and respected Dr. Maya Angelou, a woman that overcame insurmountable odds: raped as a child and silenced out of fear, a teenage  single mother and a waitress, being a black woman and  discriminated. Nevertheless, she loved the arts and pursued her career in film, dancing, singing,  directing, writing,  and teaching. She was also an activist; Dr. King and Maya were friends and she always stood for justice and equality.

One of her most famous books,written in 1970,  I Know Why the Caged Birds Sings. opened up dialogue and awareness for women who were emotionally and sexually abused. She was (and still is) their voice.

Excerpt from her biography:http://mayaangelou.com/bio/

“Dr. Angelou has served on two presidential committees, was awarded the Presidential Medal of Arts in 2000, the Lincoln Medal in 2008, and has received 3 Grammy Awards. President Clinton requested that she compose a poem to read at his inauguration in 1993. Dr. Angelou’s reading of her poem “On the Pulse of the Morning” was broadcast live around the world. Dr. Angelou has received over 50 honorary degrees and is Reynolds Professor of American Studies at Wake Forest University.”

Maya, a woman of color, raised the bar and demonstrated through her life’s work and experiences that every “sister-friend” can make it!!! Thank you for sharing your life with the world.

Dr. Angelou was on my bucket list. Now, I’ll have to meet you on the other side.

R.I.P. Phenomenal Woman!!!

I Feel Like Going On…

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It’s strange how life takes you in many directions. I had to make a major decision in August 2013. I struggled with my choices. Am I being obedient to God? Am I in a panic and making choices based on  fear and raw emotions? I allowed my first love to fall by the wayside and so I returned to teaching.

You see, I wanted to tell my life’s story to women who are STILL  hurting,  broken, rejected and  have lost hope in ever being happy in life. I know I didn’t go through all of that heartache and hardship to keep my darkest hours to myself. I have a story to tell. I meet and talk to women who have put others first and have lost their identity. I see my old self and I want them to know that the pain is temporary. Yes, it feels as if the ache in your heart is permanently embedded but it is not. I spent many years angry, having pity parties, and distrusting any man that entered into my life. I had to protect my broken soul. Then, I literally woke up in the middle of the night and I said, ” I am no longer going to live in the past.” I started praying on a regular basis, working out, getting closer to my children and keeping a journal. I got my degrees and went from welfare to being gainfully employed. It was a long road but I regained my confidence  and  a great sense of accomplishment.

Today, I feel like going on. I have written two books and I am ready to share them with the world: MY STORY! I want women to know through my personal affirmations that life goes on, you must forgive and allow yourself to love again. My books will make you laugh, cry, think and decide that change must come in order to move on.

Today, I believe that if I can make a difference in ONE woman’s life then my journey was not in vain.

Gwendolyn Owens of Relationships Start With You

“You cannot have a healthy relationship, if you do not love and value yourself first!” gto

Seasons Come and Go…You Are the Only Constant

 

The only person that can make you feel complete is YOU! People will come and go in your life. So, don’t depend on another person to make you happy! Love yourself and understand that you can’t control another person’s right to make their own decisions. Sometimes you will stand alone but it doesn’t mean you are lonely. Remember, you don’t want someone to force you to stay with them when you are ready to walk away.

I went though a painful breakup 16 years ago. Nevertheless, I allowed God to do a complete makeover. I had to learn that sometimes people are with you for a reason and sometimes a season. Now, I know my self-worth;I learned many lessons and I am stronger from the experience!

Gwendolyn Has Grown Up!!!

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Gwendolyn Has Grown Up!!!

In my twenties, I was naive.

In my thirties, I was insecure, broken and bitter.

In my forties, I learned to love myself, forgive and embrace life.

Now, I am fifty and life has just begun!

I am wise, comfortable in my own skin, appreciative, grateful and free!

I learned to live everyday as if it were my last!!!

I wish I knew then what I know now; however, this is my life’s course and I am going to “ride it until the wheels fall off!”

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I’m Back!!! Miss the Comradarie!!!

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I am back and in full swing! I will be writing a blog post once a week and when things slow down, I will be writing more.

My heart is with Relationships Start With You. I want to make a difference in the lives of women because I was once a broken woman with absolutely no direction. The change came when I decided to live, forgive and be a blessing to others.

I have been physically and mentally abused, overweight, unemployed and had self-hatred. Today, I am a new woman  who is focused and have purpose! I share my story so that women will know you can overcome adveristy and see the world in a different light!gwens_before_and_after-266967

More to come……

From the heart,

Gwendolyn of Relationships Start With You

Educator and Speaker

Educator and Speaker

It Takes a Village: The Importance of Education in the Black Community

 

Educator and Speaker

Educator and Speaker

We have a great responsibility in making sure that ALL children receive a quality education. We need parents to be actively involved and support your child’s teacher! “It takes a villiage…” Our community suffers the most because we don’t put emphasis on the importance of education. Start today! Ask your child what they’ve learned everyday. Check their homework. Talk to them about their future and passion (career choices). Expect them to attend and finish college!!! Let’s disprove the statistics!!!
From the heart,
Mrs. Gwendolyn Owens-Educator (15th year)

God Where Is My Boaz by Stephan Labossiere

God Where Is My Boaz.

 

Stephan Labossiere is a man on a mission, and that mission is to make relationships happier and more fulfilling.

“No more wondering why GOD has yet to send you the man you desire. GOD Where’s My Boaz is a woman’s guide to understanding what is hindering her from receiving the man and love she deserves. It is a straight forward and easy to read book that will help women with moving in a more positive direction. This isn’t tips and tricks on how to get a man. This book will assist you in taking a deeper look within and help you prepare and position yourself for the love you deserve.”

Happy Being Me/Brown Skin

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Take care and love yourself! You cannot expect someone to treat you a certain way and you have absolutely no regard for your own well-being. Stop treating others better than you do yourself! You have to know your worth. Your family and friends can encourage and tell you how wonderful you are but it doesn’t mean anything if YOU don’t believe it!!! Go to counseling! Join a support group! Speak love and life over yourself. Stop believing negative things that other have said about you. They are miserable themselves. Love comes from within; it is not superficial. Words like”I am too fat; I am too dark; my hair is too kinky” are self-defeating. If you are tired of being fat, there is a solution-lose weight. Embrace your beautiful brown skin and natural hair! I wasn’t blessed with a round bottom but I had to learn to accept that there is more to me than my ass! Nobody can say it better than Angie Stone,”Happy Being Me” and India Arie, “Brown Skin.” Listen to these songs!!! I dare you!!!

Learn From Reality Shows: Relationship 101

Stevie J., Joseline and Meme View Source: blog.vh1.com

Stevie J., Joseline and Mimi
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Why do you live a dramatic life? What is cute about that? You are fighting, cursing and acting a damn fool over a man that is doing exactly what he wants!!! He is blatanly disrespecting you and for some strange reason, you are allowing it!!! Where is your self-worth, boundaries and standards? I am here to tell you that you can do better! It is a mentality. Learn from the show, Love and Hip Hop Atlanta (yes that is my gulity pleasure!). Joseline proposed to Stevie J KNOWING he is a womanizer!!!! Does that make sense to you? She ALLOWS him to continue to manipulate her by using his ex-girlfriend Mimi as a pawn. What is wrong with that picture? I see reality shows as life lessons. In other words, they model what is unacceptable in a thriving, loving and trustworthy relationship. Take notes!!!

The Biggest Lie Ever Told!!!!

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Ladies, I want you to understand what you are doing to yourself for the sake of being with a male. You have to know you are worth more than you are accepting. That old adage,” It’s better to have a piece of a man than no man at all” is the biggest lie that has EVER been told. You should want the best for yourself!!! You deserve to be treated with kindness and respect instead of someone cursing, beating you, taking your money and stripping you of your self-esteem. You MUST change the way you view yourself. “You are worth more than rubies!” No matter what you have been told in life, you are worth being loved. You are God’s child and don’t you forget that! Love doesn’t hurt!!! RSWY wants you to know that you are NOT alone!!!