The Biggest Lie Ever Told!!!!

self-esteem

self-esteem (Photo credit: Key Foster)

Ladies, I want you to understand what you are doing to yourself for the sake of being with a male. You have to know you are worth more than you are accepting. That old adage,” It’s better to have a piece of a man than no man at all” is the biggest lie that has EVER been told. You should want the best for yourself!!! You deserve to be treated with kindness and respect instead of someone cursing, beating you, taking your money and stripping you of your self-esteem. You MUST change the way you view yourself. “You are worth more than rubies!” No matter what you have been told in life, you are worth being loved. You are God’s child and don’t you forget that! Love doesn’t hurt!!! RSWY wants you to know that you are NOT alone!!!

Shop Is Closed!!! It Will NOT Be Re-Opened For Business!!!

angry couple

Why waste your energy on someone who only sees you when it is convenient for him? He’ll show up for sex, a little cash and broken promises. Stop making excuses for this loser. He doesn’t have your best intentions at heart; he’s using you and every woman that crosses his path! Next time he “stops by,” look that idiot in the face and tell him “shop is closed! It will not be reopened for business!”

 

Lessons in Life: Forgiveness

Asking For Forgiveness

Asking For Forgiveness (Photo credit: hang_in_there)

I am a firm believer in forgiveness. During your lifetime, you will experience hurt, disappointment and heartache. The key to dealing with these emotions is putting the negative events in your life in perspective. Your experiences are teachable moments. You learn who you are, what you want in life and you gain wisdom. Everything that you’ve had to face did not happen by chance. Either it was a lesson for you or the other person. God uses us as His vessels. So, forgive the person that hurt you. Come to grips with your past and allow yourself to move on. Say to yourself, “today I choose to forgive. The person that hurt me no longer has power over me. I am set free because I choose to forgive.” Forgiveness=Freedom

7 deadly sins and your relationship 06/17 by The Black Womans Guide To Love | Blog Talk Radio

7 deadly sins and your relationship 06/17 by The Black Womans Guide To Love | Blog Talk Radio.

Tune in tonight with Shawn Hill, Patrick M. Bishop, Keisha Stoute and RSWY Gwendolyn Owens at 9PM CST/10PM EST. Hot topic and great discussion!!! You can click on the link and listen on your computer or call in and listen:(646) 378-0242. Thanks in advance for your support!!!!

Father’s Day Blues

?????????????I know tomorrow a lot of children and adults are going to have mixed emotions about Father’s Day. If your dad is deceased, non-existent or you had a bad relationship, I ask that tomorrow you thank the non-biological men(surrogate fathers) for standing in the gap. To those of you who did not particpiate in your children’s lives, it’s never too late to ask for forgiveness and start building a relationship. If your children reject you, NO MORE EXCUSES, keep trying to reach out to them until the day you die. Understand they are hurt, disappointed, rejected and angry. However, forgiveness can take place when they are ready. Stop the vicious cycle, please!!!!
From the heart,
Gwendolyn

I Know My Worth!!! What About You?

BeYourself

  • YOU are your most important asset! That means you don’t need any liabilities entering your life. Don’t allow anyone to drag you down!!! Remember that!!!
  • Holding on to a dead-in relationship is suicide. When it’s over, cut your losses and move on. Don’t continue to subject yourself to pain, heartache and misery. All you have to do is pack your things, load up the U-Haul, grab your purse and move to your new place where there is peace and take hold of your life. Don’t look back!!! Lot’s wife (Bible) looked back, and she became a pillar of salt. Your future is ahead of you not behind you!
  • Have you ever known people who are always negative? They are never happy about anything. They complain, complain, complain!!! You want to run when you see them coming! Think before you speak because it could work against you. The tongue can speak life or death. In other words, what we put out is what we get back. Never doubt the power you have inside of you. Speak positive things over yourself. Change your way of thinking and watch your life change for the better!

Should You Allow Your Boyfriend to Discipline Your Children? Hell No!!!

?????????????(Real Talk) Ladies, I just answered a question on Black Parents United ( please support): Is it appropriate to allow your boyfriend ( not the father) to discipline your child/children? (paraphrased) This is a pet peeve of mine. How could you allow a man ,that you are dating/boyfriend, to put his hands on your child? If he is not the father or your husband, you are out of line!!! We read online and hear on the news everyday about children being severely abused, tortured and even killed by a non- parent. MOTHERS protect your children. I realize there are different scenarios but you should set boundaries. If you are married to a man who is not the biological father, there needs to be a discussion and parameters set as to how/who disciplines the child/children. There are some excellent step-fathers out there who are loving and nurturing so kudos to you!!! But, this post is in reference to abusive boyfriends and sometimes step-fathers. Ladies, don’t EVER forget that your role is to protect your children!!! ( I am not trying to offend anyone; I am speaking out of love and being a voice for children.)
P.S. I would be in jail smoking cigarettes and I have asthma!!! You mess with my kids, I am going to have a state issued number across my chest!

Respect Yourself!!!

Single Ladies (Put a Ring on It)

Single Ladies (Put a Ring on It) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Ladies, understand that your body is precious and it is not made to be used and abused. If you don’t respect yourself, then a MALE will use you until he’s had enough and leave you broken and feeling worthless. It’s never too late to change your way of thinking. Forgive yourself and start anew. ALWAYS know your worth and in the meantime work on yourself. Wait for the right MAN to enter your life and he’ll treat you like a queen, accept your faults, encourage and uplift you and make you his wife for life. (Put a ring on it!!!)